Six Ways To Deal With Mother’s Day When Mom Is Gone

Mother’s Day can be rough on those of us who can’t take our mothers to brunch or pick up the phone to wish them a good day. Remembering who they were before they went beyond our reach; imagining what they would say to us now if they were within hugging distance, is bittersweet.
My Mom died eight years ago. It still doesn’t seem possible.
The death of a mother is like nothing else. The bond we have to her is like nothing else. We can be three or eighty when we lose our Moms it doesn’t matter. The devastation is deep and the hollow sense of loss never completely goes away.
My Mom was no saint. If she wears a halo now it’s propped up by little devil’s horns. She was frustrating, moody, beautiful and charming. I hated her when she gave me the cold silent treatment and adored her when she beamed her mega watt smile my way. She was sharp as a whip, read Jean Paul Sartre in French for fun and loyally watched the Guiding Light, her favorite soap opera, daily. She was eccentric and down to earth; had difficult episodes of depressionand was a tenacious optimist. I miss her.
Mother’s Day has its place. It was created to honor mothers who had lost their sons during the Civil War, the ultimate sacrifice for their country. God knows mothers everywhere deserve a holiday.
But for us whose mothers are gone, how do we get through this holiday that highlights our loss? Here are six suggestions:

1. Do something that will honor or please her. Preparing and serving some of Mom’s favorites foods is what I like to do.
2. Call or be with someone who remembers and may be missing her too. You can bet my sisters and I will be calling each other to share memories.
3. Write your Mom a little Mother’s Day note or postcard. Catch her up on your life. Try to focus on the life part not death.
4. Let others pamper you a bit, or pamper yourself. If you’re a Mom, enjoy your kids’ attention. If you’re not, enjoy a masseuse’s attention.
5. Avoid restaurants. The restaurants are packed with families celebrating Mother’s Day. You don’t have to expose yourself if doing so is stressful. There are alternatives: Your family can get terrific take out, organize a barbecue in a park, let them cook for you at home.
6. Tell your kids stories about their grandmother. My kids and I will remember how she loved to do magic tricks for them and how she loved to laugh.
Even though your Mom is gone your love for her, and hers for you, is not. That is worth celebrating.
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/05/09/postcard-to-mom-wish-you-were-here/

Residents of Manila travel out of town to the north in search for highly recommended five star hotels and resorts in Clark, Pampanga. There is no good park in Manila so residents are forced to travel out of town on a short getaway to the north where families can unwind and relax in a nice country park, enjoy a picnic with children and friends too.

Top rated hotels do not always have to have 5-star amenities. Many travelers prefer a resort that offers ambience with nature, a lake, trees and open space for children to play and picnic. There are private resorts in Pampanga near Manila that offers this kind of relaxation and laidback lifestyle. This is also one of the few places that offer free wifi internet access to guests of the resort in Clark Pampanga.

Residents or Manila travel out of town to head north to Pampanga to relax, unwind and spend a few nights in the new hotel rooms situated right on the lake of Clearwater Resort in Clark Airbase. Many visitors and tourists enjoy the feeling of waking up by the lake. The sunrise produces a spectacular sight with the sunlight reflection on the calm surface of the three-hectare fresh water lake of this famous resort in Clark.

Travelers going north to Clark Pampanga frequently look for enjoyable hotel for family bonding during summer vacation in the Philippines. Many visitors to Angeles City, Pampanga Clark Philippines prefer to stay in private resorts located in a secure and safe destination. Staying in a private place makes it possible to enjoy a peaceful holiday with no stress. No wonder many tourists rate Clearwater Resort as the best day-trip destination for a summer getaway, a vacation and a place to celebrate special occasion also. Clark is already a popular destination for golfers from Manila. Clark Freeport offers some of the best golf courses in Pampanga and outshines many golf clubs and golf courses elsewhere in the Philippines.